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The next great Miranda masterwork. Knock ’em dead, Lin!


John Lewis tells his truth about ‘Selma’ – LA Times

My respect for this man grows more and more….and as portrayed in the movie Selma in that conversation scene with Dr. King, shames me more and more into wanting to actively do more to better our community and ensure our full rights as American citizens. 


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Dreamweaver: The Militant Martin


Just because Dr. King was an active proponent of nonviolent protest does not mean he didn’t have a revolutionary spirit. Most of us are more familiar with the hopefulness exhibited in the I Have A Dream and Mountaintop speeches, but King’s views on social justice were much more complex. On this day, and particularly in the current sociopolitical climate in America, here are some quotes that display that spirit:

Whatever affects one directly, affects all indirectly. I can never be what I ought to be until you are what you ought to be. This is the interrelated structure of reality.

A nation that continues year after year to spend more money on military defense than on programs of social uplift is approaching spiritual doom.

We who in engage in nonviolent direct action are not the creators of tension. We merely bring to the surface the hidden tension that is already alive.

The question is not whether we will be extremists, but what kind of extremists we will be… The nation and the world are in dire need of creative extremists.

A right delayed is a right denied.

The Negro needs the white man to free him from his fears. The white man needs the Negro to free him from his guilt.

The sweltering summer of the Negro’s legitimate discontent will not pass until there is an invigorating autumn of freedom and equality.

It is incontestable and deplorable that Negroes have committed crimes; but they are derivative crimes. They are born of the greater crimes of the white society.

Peace is not merely a distant goal that we seek, but a means by which we arrive at that goal.

An individual who breaks a law that conscience tells him is unjust, and who willingly accepts the penalty of imprisonment in order to arouse the conscience of the community over its injustice, is in reality expressing the highest respect for the law.

Law and order exist for the purpose of establishing justice and when they fail in this purpose they become the dangerously structured dams that block the flow of social progress.

Change does not roll in on the wheels of inevitability, but comes through continuous struggle. And so we must straighten our backs and work for our freedom. A man can’t ride you unless your back is bent.

The function of education is to teach one to think intensively and to think critically. Intelligence plus character – that is the goal of true education.

We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.

The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.

Human progress is neither automatic nor inevitable… Every step toward the goal of justice requires sacrifice, suffering, and struggle; the tireless exertions and passionate concern of dedicated individuals.

I refuse to accept the view that mankind is so tragically bound to the starless midnight of racism and war that the bright daybreak of peace and brotherhood can never become a reality… I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word.

We must learn to live together as brothers or perish together as fools.

Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.

Man must evolve for all human conflict a method which rejects revenge, aggression and retaliation. The foundation of such a method is love.

Whatever affects one directly, affects all indirectly. I can never be what I ought to be until you are what you ought to be. This is the interrelated structure of reality.

An individual has not started living until he can rise above the narrow confines of his individualistic concerns to the broader concerns of all humanity.

Nonviolence means avoiding not only external physical violence but also internal violence of spirit. You not only refuse to shoot a man, but you refuse to hate him.

All labor that uplifts humanity has dignity and importance and should be undertaken with painstaking excellence.

He who passively accepts evil is as much involved in it as he who helps to perpetrate it. He who accepts evil without protesting against it is really cooperating with it.

The limitation of riots, moral questions aside, is that they cannot win and their participants know it. Hence, rioting is not revolutionary but reactionary because it invites defeat. It involves an emotional catharsis, but it must be followed by a sense of futility.

Shallow understanding from people of good will is more frustrating than absolute misunderstanding from people of ill will.

Philanthropy is commendable, but it must not cause the philanthropist to overlook the circumstances of economic injustice which make philanthropy necessary.

Discrimination is a hellhound that gnaws at Negroes in every waking moment of their lives to remind them that the lie of their inferiority is accepted as truth in the society dominating them.

It may be true that the law cannot make a man love me, but it can keep him from lynching me, and I think that’s pretty important.

A riot is the language of the unheard.

The hope of a secure and livable world lies with disciplined nonconformists who are dedicated to justice, peace and brotherhood.

Pity may represent little more than the impersonal concern which prompts the mailing of a check, but true sympathy is the personal concern which demands the giving of one’s soul.

Never forget that everything Hitler did in Germany was legal.


Big thanks to Brainy Quote for this compilation of quotes. You can also find more of the revolutionary King quotes here in this repost on my Tumblr page.


Do some good today…and if you haven’t already, go see Selma.

Props to Google today for today’s doodle.


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20 Things and All That…..Playing 20 Things You Might Not Know About Me Blog Tag

My good friend Monica just got into blogging and decided I needed a tag for this.  As I actually like her (and want to encourage her to keep at this blogging thing), I’ll be a good sport. 😀


If any of you would like to participate, here are the rules!

1. Copy and paste the questions below and then answer and turn them into a blog post. Or, record a video answering these questions and upload it to your blog post.

2. At the bottom of your post, tag anywhere from 2-10 bloggers you want to see answer these questions. (I also suggest hitting up your tagged people via social media just to let them know you tagged them to do this tag challenge.)

3. Use the title: 20 Things You Might Not Know About Me Blog Tag. Once you’ve hit publish, leave a comment below with the link to your post.

4. Use the hashtag #20ThingsBlogTag when sharing on social media so we can all find your awesome posts!

Question 1: How tall are you?

5’3″ is what’s on my driver’s license, and that’s what I’m going with….

Question 2: Do you have a hidden talent? If so, what?

Most of my talents are visible: dance, writing, arts and crafts….so unless having this uncanny knack to walk into walls and furniture or somehow cut myself with every kitchen knife imaginable counts as a hidden talent, I’m at a loss.

Question 3: What’s your biggest blog-related pet peeve?

Deadlines.  All these amazing ideas and drafts and you have to actually act on them so the public can read them.

Question 4: What’s your biggest non-blog related pet peeve?

Um….my husband not replacing the toilet paper roll?  It would be different if he just didn’t replace it–it would still annoy me, but that’s typical.  No, HE pulls out a new roll and sits it ON TOP OF the roll that has exactly two squares of paper on it.

Question 5: What’s your favorite song?

Depends on the genre you want to go with.  I adore Judy Collins’s version of “Send In The Clowns,” and have worn the print off of several Broadway soundtracks.

Question 6: What’s your favorite Etsy shop that isn’t yours?

Don’t have an Etsy shop, but one of my former students does.  All But Flowers by Andrea Stevens–she does mostly floral décor made of paper but her main creations are brooch bouquets.  She’s also branched into brooch hair jewelry and flower ink pens crafted from duct tape–my two favorite items.

Question 7: What’s your favorite way to spend your free time when you’re alone?

TV, Facebook, reading…and the aforementioned dance and arts and crafts stuff.

Question 8: What’s your favorite junk food?

Reese’s peanut butter cups.  Don’t eat them as much anymore, as I could suck them up in large numbers, and they don’t taste as good as my thighs not rubbing together feel.

Question 9: Do you have a pet or pets? If so, what kind and what are their names?

Used to have fish as a child…too many to name.  The hubs and I had a beta fish he named Raiden, after the Mortal Kombat character.

Question 10: What are your number one favorite nonfiction and fiction books?

The fact that I can now call Suzanne Brockmann a friend has absolutely no bearing on my choices…. 😉  However, I can count Heart Throb, and both her Tall, Dark and Dangerous and Troubleshooters Navy SEAL series.  The nonfiction books don’t stick with me as much….

Question 11: What’s your favorite beauty product?

I am not a girly girl by any stretch of the imagination, so a “favorite” beauty product–or even the concept of such–boggles the mind.  But if I have to pick one, I’m going to go with the Sally Hansen nail strips.  The speed and ease with which doing my nails in various elaborate designs AND have them last for a while is just AWESOME.

Question 12: When were you last embarrassed? What happened?

Can I just say my entire adolescence and call it a day?

Question 13: If you could only drink one beverage (besides water) for the rest of your life, what would it be?

So many choices…..alcoholic choice is bellini, non-alcoholic is Celestial Seasonings Madagascar Vanilla Red Rooibos tea.

Question 14: What’s your favorite movie?

The Fish That Saved Pittsburgh.  Yeah, I know–if you follow me on the regular, you would probably have expected Beauty and the Beast to have crossed my lips.  And I do love that movie…but you asked for my favorite.

Question 15: What were you in high school: prom queen, nerd, cheerleader, jock, valedictorian, band geek, loner, artist, prep?

Nerd loner artist.  Still am.

Question 16: If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you live?

I just want to be somewhere near the arts and the outdoors–New York City is growing on me, and growing up in New Orleans has given me a melting pot appreciation for all kinds of culture.  I really wouldn’t mind retiring to Natchitoches, LA, though–it’s where we fled after That Storm and it’s a good balance between metropolis and small town.  Plus I left some really great people up there….

Question 17: PC or Mac?

PC. Did Macs in college because I had to, and if I ever manage to get into editing like I always wanted, Final Cut Pro works best on Macs.  But for standard computing, I’ll stick with PC.

Question 18: Last romantic gesture from a crush, date, boy/girlfriend, spouse?

My husband would always go to the same bakery that did our wedding cake and order a small cake in our wedding colors for our anniversary.  I would complain about all of the sugar in the huge decorative roses so he eventually stopped doing it.  It didn’t occur to me until that moment that he was trying to replace our original cake topper, as shortly before our first anniversary That Hurricane That Shall Not Be Named struck, thus rendering everything in our refrigerator–including our wedding cake top–toxic.

Question 19: Favorite celebrity?

Again, depends on your concept of favorite….Lin-Manuel Miranda naturally is on that list, as well as my adopted mama Debbie Allen (which, if you were still wondering, partially explains #14).

Question 20: What blogger do you secretly want be best friends with?

Tie between Luvvie Ajayi (aka Awesomely Luvvie) and Vitamin Q (Williams).  Q and I are FB friends, and I will eventually wear him down.  Luvvie might get a restraining order because I fully intend to get all up in that closet and steal all of her ALPHETS (you’ll have to read her glossary if you don’t get that.)  Honorable mention goes to the mind behind my sassy little friend Angry Pear.


This blog post is a part of the ’20 Things You Might Not Know About Me’ Blog Tag started by April from Blacksburg Belle. She began this blog tag experiment to build community among creatives, help us bloggers to connect more and get to know each other better. This month’s topic is all about sharing just a little too much information about yourself. If you’d like to participate or want more info,check out the beginning post right here.

Kwanzaa Reflections 2015


My reflections begin with noting how difficult it is to continually generate enthusiasm to keep going every year. The fact that I never got around to writing 2014’s reflections is telling enough. Additional upheaval in my personal life certainly didn’t help either. And the unusual number of cold snaps in our area that killed the Kwanzaa plant–pot and all–was not a great omen. (Neither was the unexpected premature death of the replacement plant IN A PROTECTIVE GREENHOUSE….) If ever a year needed to begin with refocusing and re-centering on our historical greatness and future potential, this was definitely it. The unrest in Ferguson, MO catalyzed by the Michael Brown case and the continued tensions in New York City have sparked an atmosphere of protest and  polarizing viewpoints about the vast inequities in race relations. One would think in these times we as a community would embrace something that encourages a sense of pride, self-worth and unity…..but not only does it seem that we can’t come together in the face of so much vitriolic disdain, so many continue to dismiss and even mock the observance of Kwanzaa itself. I saw a post that angered me in my Kwanzaa web search this season–there was a parade scheduled somewhere in California (Los Angeles, I think) that petered out after maybe 10 minutes due to “lack of public interest.” Disappointing, of course, but what made me angry was the writer’s condescension, mocking the organizers’ efforts to push this “fake, made-up holiday.” I can understand and respect someone not wishing to participate in or celebrate Kwanzaa due to a lack of understanding or even interest, but that dig was unnecessary….and, considering the presence on the calendar and in the public esteem of such “fake, made-up holidays” as Mother’s Day, Father’s Day and New Year’s Eve, wholly unjustified as an argument. I already have to face my own issues increasing participation in our New Year’s Day service; people will plan huge celebrations that revolve around staying up late and watching a clock tick down to midnight but asking for a gathering to celebrate entering that new year and committing to ideals to maximize its potential bounties is deemed ridiculous. It continues to annoy me how much resistance there is to even learn even a little something about Kwanzaa, or try to make it relatable to them. Our church’s celebration is certainly not typical, as we manage to blend a deliberately non-religious observance with our Christian faith. But we manage to embrace and hold true to both.

As always, many of the plans I have to expand our celebration’s scope and outreach have yet to be realized. I did procure a small grant this year to assist with our festivities but circumstances arose where the funds did not arrive in time to mount the larger plans. Still, we were able to put on an abbreviated version of our already written ceremony which, with the exception of our pastor leading the Harambee salute, I did all of the readings for. Admittedly, my mood was just as ho-hum as those I rail about as I put things together.  But there’s just something about reading the words and noting the meaning and intention behind the symbols and principles that always motivates and re-energizes me…and even without the planned fellowship after service, I felt encouraged to plan better for next year and to implement the principles of the Nguzo Saba in my daily life.

2016 will mark the 50th anniversary of Dr. Maulana Karenga’s creation of Kwanzaa–an excellent opportunity to meet in larger numbers and face the New Year laughing and stronger. I have so many projects I want to finish–my Kwanzaa service book, a local Ujamaa directory featuring community businesses (a “Black Pages” If you will), a Kuumba Festival on the last Sunday of the year that will spotlight the artistic endeavors and rich cultural heritage our people enjoy…or should enjoy. And celebrate. Hopefully, next year’s report will see me successful at achieving those goals with determination, dedication…and a little luck.

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